The importance of playing with dad

Playing with dad helps children develop their self-confidence, strengthen their motor skills, increase their creativity, among other benefits. That is why it is so important that the father figure is not only that of the “provider” or the one who “puts discipline”, but that it is understood as a vital part in the integral development of the child.

Although from conception, the loving mother is the one who mainly welcomes the role of protection of the future child who is on the way; for there are nine months in which an intimate connection of absolute dependence of the child towards its mother arises, since through her he receives all the nutrients they need to grow in the womb. Not for that reason the “work” of the father is less important during this stage prior to birth.

The father is also fundamental in the baby’s growth process within the mother and after its birth. The voice and caresses to the mother’s womb accompany this first stage, in addition to the loving feelings. In fact, young newcomers to the world can recognize their parents only by their voice, especially if that bond has been firmly established during pregnancy.

And although traditionally many families continue to see the father only as a provider and distant from the affective event, today the roles of father and mother have changed, with the firm incorporation of women into the world of work. The concept is no longer that “daddy helps,” but that he paternity, which includes everyday chores.

Play: serious fun

Various studies have shown the value of play in the process of learning and developing skills and strengthening the family bond. Unfortunately, at least half of families, according to various studies, spend almost no playtime with their children and this gap is widening in the most disadvantaged sectors of society.

To this is added that, just as the mother is the one who traditionally assumes the role of parenting, she is also the one who plays the most with her children, losing the father and children a valuable opportunity to get to know each other better and incorporate other experiences related to the parental role. .

During the first years of life, from 0 to 3 years old, the child’s brain develops at an amazing speed, establishing networks of neural connections, which can be stimulated with recreational activities carried out with their parents. From that moment and towards preschool and school age, play is vital in their development and can also include reading children’s stories, songs, and homemade crafts, with which they will gain vocabulary, self-confidence, motor skills, cognitive development, communication with others, among many skills.

But what is the difference in playing with dad?

A healthy male role is essential in shaping the personality of boys and girls. The activity of playing is fun and in it the relationship becomes closer, less distant and parents and children gain communication. The current man is no longer the distant figure who does not laugh, does not cry or does not have to do home activities, once consecrated to women; on the contrary, he is called to show his feelings, attend to the upbringing of his children, play with them.

Otherwise, experts point out, the “absent father syndrome” can develop, which consists of perceiving the father as emotionally distant, which can lead to problems with authority, less ability to achieve goals, as well as allowing behaviors abusive of others. Similarly, the American psychiatrist K. D. Pruett demonstrates, based on an extensive statistical base, in his book “The role of the father, the irreplaceable role”, that men committed to their parental role have more harmonious, dynamic and productive children.

According to various studies, the child whose father has been emotionally and physically accessible, for which a unique opportunity is play, and has been present and active in their role, shows greater tolerance to stressful events, shows greater adaptation to the world than them surrounds and possesses a more developed self-esteem and self-confidence.

In turn, in the field of play, the presence of the father is important, who usually supports exploratory and novel behaviors, which encourages problem solving, develops curiosity about his physical environment and improves the infant’s ability to adapt and even language development in the youngest child, since unlike many mothers, who become “guesses” about children’s needs, parent participation is different and often encourages the child to make a verbal effort to communicate.

Although parents are sometimes called rude and careless with children and they can skip certain rules such as that their children go to bed earlier, eat only certain things or that encourage the little ones to risk doing some more difficult tasks or activities for example outdoors, it is just this attitude, in its proper measure, which can contribute to independence and emotional strength, in perfect balance with the protection and shelter that mothers provide.

Both boys and girls can find in their father a very active playmate, which includes the development of physical skills, which is also very important for the integral growth of the personality.

So dads play with your kids!

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